every 24 hours... there are over 6,600 divorces in the US 50 % or more of 1st Marriages end in Divorce 60 % of 2nd Marriages fail 73 % of 3rd Marriage fail
many women don't know how to start over effectively, or quickly
WHAT'S EVEN WORSE... every 9 seconds... a woman in this country is abused by an intimate partner
every 24 hours... 4 women are murdered by an intimate partner or an ex
1 in 5 college females
will experience some form of intimate partner (or ex partner) violence while in college. Research shows that there is a disturbingly high rate of physical & sexual victimization against women by intimate or ex intimate partners on college campuses.
College campuses are the new at-risk communities for women.
Most women will return to an abuser 8 or 9 times before they finally leave for good. Staying away from addictive-like love that won't let go is not easy.
It requires a strategy.
These statistics don't even speak to the women who are being harmed by
non-physical means every day, nor to the financial harm that must be cleaned up
or the children who are also affected.
abuse against women can be subtle and slow it isn't always obvious or like the extreme cases we see in the media
it doesn't always involve physical violence but it will ALWAYS be harmful, feel addictive (it's difficult to break away) and be hard to recover from
(these kind of break ups take forever and often have on-again/off-again cycles)
When it happens, it impacts every area of a woman's life for years.
it is not realistic to think women can just leave and move on companies & colleges must start bringing training to the women in their buildings There are countless women starting over every day & no one realizes it.
It affects the bottom line of any business.
I provide shortcuts through the turmoil, protection from a repeat,
and strategies for capturing success.
Supporting women to become strong and aware
engages an energy that creates a new kind of world and more success for businesses.
Why you can rely on Teagin for this kind of thing...
Teagin's life has been directly & indirectly impacted by relational harm & domestic violence.
A dear friend of hers was brutally murdered by her husband and
Teagin has survived horrific domestic violence herself. It started with her very first boyfriend, she was 15, he was 25. After almost 6 years of hell, she got out, believing that all she had to do was leave. Less than 18 months later, she met a new man, one who seemed to be the polar opposite. She was mistaken, and had attracted a partner who was destructive in many other ways,
without even realizing it. She was 22, he was 40. She got stuck in a marriage with a bully, one who thrived on relentless Machiavellian power & control games that flew so far under the radar and counter to his more public persona, that it was almost impossible to determine truth from fiction. There was sporadic physical violence, nothing like the "typical" domestic violence we hear about, but it was just enough to keep me quiet, uncertain, and off-balance. What I had interpreted as confidence in the beginning, proved to be superiority and indifference. It was a crazy-making, harmful and damaging relationship that took years for me to get out of, and years to overcome and recover.
That is not uncommon.
As Teagin has "working knowledge" of the severe and obvious, as well as the subtle and destructive, she understands the true impact on a woman's life in either instance.She knows what gets women targeted, trapped, sucked back in, stuck repeating patterns and finding chaotic/toxic love & Mr. Wrong more than once.
Most importantly, Teagin knows how to break that cycle for good
She helps women find the lessons and the courage to look inward and at themselves for the answers.
She leaned how to rebuild and stop toxic men from intruding on her life by forcing herself to look at why she found and tolerated such mistreatment.
She challenged herself to grow through it and become responsible for her own results.
By altering her perspective, awareness, and approach to life, Teagin was able to capture her feminine power & set herself on a path of opportunity & success.
She learned to accept what is, with grace, and to expect beyond it with certainty.
By putting herself through extensive training programs in relational harm reduction and recovery, training and volunteering as a domestic violence advocate, increasing her self-awareness through honest self-reflection and through being coached, Teagin has come full circle. After experiencing an incredible transformation through coaching herself, she eventually became a Certified Professional Coach in expanded her coach training and certifications to span over several specialty areas. She continues to add new training programs to her repertoire as she believes women need a full range of success coaching, not just outward focused domestic violence information
if they are to avoid abuse or are ready to make it out of toxic, chaotic lives.
In learning how to help herself,
she was able to teach her daughters
the principles of extreme self-care, boundaries, and self-protection.
She has since witnessed her young daughters apply the skills of self-protection that is missing for many women, and she watched them assess and recognize toxic people on the fly, trusting their own instincts, not needing or waiting for too much evidence to spot toxic natured bullies and shut them down with confidence~and without guilt.
To see that courage and strength in pre-teens is pretty powerful.
As she found her strategies working, she began helping other women notice and identify what puts them back in control of their lives, pointing to the traps and how to pay attention to their own responses to lead themselves out of destruction for good.
She shows women powerful, fun ways to spot, stop, and avoid problematic or abusive love while leading them to see that focus on the abuser keeps them trapped. It is typical to ask women to look for red flags, for example~but that is an old strategy that gets women sucked in to destructive / abusive love and trapped there.
Teagin developed Deliberate Dating Strategies which teaches women easy tricks for dating after destruction, so they can regain self-trust and get their radar working again.
Her Deliberate Dating strategies changes the result of dating and helps stop relational harm and destruction from recurring again.
Teagin picked out the best of the strategies that worked for her after many years turmoil, study, time, effort, and personal investment. She used some tips as they came, improved upon others, and crafted her own tricks until she found what worked best, and then she pooled all that information together into a cohesive whole, creating a system for women who are starting over after a destructive partner, or~who want to be informed and aware on how to avoid toxicity and abuse in their lives from the get-go.
Teagin's Start Over Success Programs show women how to interpret communication signals, body language, subtle characteristic traits (including their own). They help women understand why some will be targeted by destructive men repeatedly~
and more importantly, what they can do about it.
Teagin provides life and death information that is essential for every woman. Those who don't have it, risk paying the ultimate price,
as demonstrated in the following cases that have personally impacted Teagin's life:
These incidents have touched my life personally I want them to be the last.
I am haunted by the death of a woman who was very special to me, my high school English teacher. Her horrible, gruesome murder has greatly impacted my life. She was gentle, funny, kind, and effortlessly beautiful. Together, she and her husband appeared to make the most perfect couple. Many of us envied her beauty, and thought she had all the luck in the world because she had it all. Her husband was a looker, very funny and engaging, and superbly charming. He worked at the same school, and was my gym teacher.
When we learned that Helen was brutally murdered, we never suspected her husband would be under investigation, never mind held responsible for her murder, but it was him who bashed her beautiful head in with a tire iron, and left her to die as he went back to work like nothing happened.
It was impossible to believe. His true colors eventually showed as he tried to lie through it all, but it became easier to see what he had been hiding from everyone so well. He was creepy, and as cold as they come, a stark contrast to the charm and appeal he typically showed everyone, so it slowly began to make sense how she could have ended up with such a sick and twisted man.
She was the generous, caring, compassionate kind, always looking out for others and more concerned for them than for herself. She would smile and teach every day, happy and joyful, she had many admirers, but she was suffering at home at every night, and no one suspected a thing. It pains me to know how she died. Such a tremendous loss. I visit her grave site from time to time and when I see his last name on her tombstone, it unnerves me. It seems so wrong that he lay claim over her there as well; I wish I could scratch it off.
She left behind her two young children He is serving a life sentence. * * * * *
I watched my sister come to terms with the death of her close friend who was murdered by a man whom she had met through a dating agency. She joined the dating service because she thought it seemed safer to meet someone this way, but after several months of dating her "match," she realized he was a little off and began to disconnect from him, only to be stalked relentlessly.
Despite restraining orders and repeat cries for help, she was alone in her battle. She kept asking her friends to stay with her at home so she wouldn't be alone if he showed up, and everyone she knew was aware of how scared she was of him, but no one really believed he would ever do more than follow her and try to get her back a few times. They saw it as harmless in many ways, but soon, her and one of her friends who was staying with her went for a walk and he broke into her apartment and hid in her closet.
When the two girls returned home, he jumped out of the closet, held the gun directly onto her face and shot her on the spot, killing her instantly. Her friend heard the commotion and fled, he then turned the gun on himself and shot himself in the head. The friend escaped physical harm, but no doubt will never be the same.
Two dead in a predictable instant. A close friend narrowly escapes, but is directly impacted forever.
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My friend's sister was murdered. Hers was a high profile case where the reports slandered the beautiful woman for her lifestyle, rather than focusing on the obvious issues raised by a professional and well-respected married man brutally killing his mistress in a jealous rage. She had tried to end their affair several times, only to get sucked back in to the relationship. When she finally arrived with the strength to mean it, he sensed how serious she was and wouldn't hear of it.
The full story may never be known, but her gorgeous hair and pieces of her brain matter were found on the inside of his foyer, in the trunk of his car, and on a hammer he owned. He is thought to have killed her with the hammer at the front door of his home, where he lived with his wife. Her body has never been found.
This story angered me because it was the first time I realized how the media played things out with no regard for the family. They were sacrificed emotionally for good headlines while trying to wrap their hearts and minds around what happened and how they maybe could have helped or rescued the young woman they loved so dearly.
Another woman murdered by a man no one would suspect.
Two entire families deeply affected forever.
And the murderer served only 8-1/2 years in prison, then married a prison guard on his release,
proving how manipulative, deceitful, & charming he could be,
given that the prison guard should know better than to fall for a prisoner.
Stories you know may not be as tragic, at least I hope not.
I suspect, though, that you or someone you know, either directly or indirectly,
has been affected by an abusive relationship at some point, if only briefly.
Once one woman shares a story, many others share their experiences too, and many men are in relationships with women who have come out of abuse, and possibly still suffer some of it's effects.
This cannot continue to be the norm; it's time to approach this subject from a different angle.